Practice the Art of Connection
Effective relationship therapy grounded in evidence based practices. For partners who want to understand and find their way back to each other. For people who want lasting results.
Professional Support for Meaningful Change
Relationships today are asked to do more than ever — to be a source of intimacy, partnership, growth, and stability, often while both partners are stretched thin by work, family, and the general pace of modern life. At The Artful Relationship, I bring together several evidence-based approaches to meet couples where they actually are, not where a single model assumes they should be.
At the core of my work is Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, which looks beneath the argument to the attachment needs driving it — the bids for connection, reassurance, and safety that often get lost in conflict. Alongside this, I draw on Relational Life Therapy's directness in naming unhelpful patterns and holding both partners accountable to change, and a systemic lens that considers the wider context — family history, life stage, external pressures — shaping how a couple relates.
This isn't a one-size-fits-all approach. It's a considered, adaptive way of working that draws on what the evidence and my experience tell me will genuinely help — for your relationship, specifically.
How it Works
1. Reach Out
Book an initial 90 minute assessment session to get started. You also have the option to book a free 15 minute intro call to meet, discuss your needs, and see if we’re a good fit. You don’t need to have it all worked out. Most couples arrive unsure where to start. Just turn up and leave the rest to us. All sessions will be held on Zoom and so are accessible to people all across Australia and internationally, from the comfort of your own space.
2. Understand
From there we work on new ways of responding to each other, through weekly or fortnightly sessions, or a couples intensive if you want to dive right in. You’ll work together to co-create a new, more sustainable way of relating. You’ll have gained practical tools and resources to apply, and over time the work moves out of the therapy room and into your everyday life.
3. Change
In the first few sessions together we build a clear picture of what’s happening between you: the patterns you fall into, how things get derailed, what each of you needs, and what you’d like to be different. You both have a voice from the start and the process is a collaboration. Ongoing sessions are 60 or 90 minutes and can be weekly or fortnightly.
Meet Nic
Hi I’m Nic Tovey, the founder and principle relationship therapist at The Artful Relationship. Thanks so much for being here.
I came to this work by an unlikely route, from the Royal Navy and early career as a mechanical engineer, through many twists and turns I eventually found my way to my true passion and purpose. One of the many things that keeps me motivated to do this work is a belief that relationships are where we do our deepest growing, and also where we get most stuck.
My 16 years of experience is backed up by a masters of Counselling and training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and Relational Life Therapy, I work with couples, and with individuals, to understand what’s happening between them and find their way back to themselves and each other.
Make an Enquiry
Please use the form to make contact and address any questions or concerns you may have.